Posts Tagged ‘marriage


how lucky am I?

In the last two weeks, my husband has…

– Re-decked our upstairs patio with beautiful cedar.
– Cooked a beef brisket to perfection.
– Taught himself how to build a computer…ordered all the parts, and then built it…and it works!

Jealous? Ummm, I know. I hit the freakin’ husband jackpot! After more than 10 years, he STILL impresses me!


goin’ to the chapel.

Over the weekend my brother-in-law (it’s so weird I have in-laws…I feel like such an adult). Anyways, over the weekend, my brother-in-law proposed to his wonderful girlfriend and she said yes!! You know when you see a couple and you get warm-fuzzies inside? This couple gives me warm-fuzzies! I absolutely adore them and we are so excited and happy for them! Congrats Gabe and Mary B!


wedding to do list.

Well, we are officially 37 days away from the big day and I’m getting very excited! There is a lot to do though. At the top of my list…

  • Dessert. The main problem here is that neither Derek nor I really LIKE dessert that much. I mean, it’s ok, but we aren’t crazy dessert lovers. We’ve had more ideas on this topic than I’d like to admit: pies, ice cream sundae bar, milk and cookies, cupcakes, cheesecake, ice cream bars, etc. Now, I *think I’ve landed on plain, ol’ traditional wedding cake. We’ll see.
  • Vows. We need to work on our vows and figure out what we are going to say to each other. This is really important to me and I don’t want to leave it until the last minute.
  • Rehearsal dinner food. We need to decide what we are going to be serving at our casual rehearsal dinner. Derek is in charge of this one.
  • Wine/Beer. We need to figure out where to order our booze from and then order it!

There are many other things on my list, but these are the big ones. Wish me luck –I  hope it all gets done!


today in the car…

Derek: We get along really well, huh?

Me: Yeah, I think so! We better; we’re getting married in 3 months.

Derek: It’s just that I’ve never been friends with someone for ten
years (let alone roommates) and not gotten tired of them.

Me: That’s how you know this is gonna be good!

Me: <<Big smile and warm fuzzy feeling inside>>


3.86 million users.

Considering my last post, this feels really weird to write about, but I’m so appalled I have to. Have you heard of I had heard about it, but last week while I was traveling in Alaska I actually saw a commercial. You can view it herehere’s another one.

Essentially this company has capitalized on infidelity. AshleyMadison is a website that connects married people if they want to have an affair anonymously.  It’s a for married people and they have 3.86 million users. This concept bothers me on so many levels.

I find it disgusting that someone is making money off this – although I have to say, I place more blame on the users than the website owner himself. These people would be having affairs regardless if this site existed. That being said, I’m not sure how this guy (the owner) lives with himself. He claims to have a healthy marriage. I hope his wife is an active member of his site – anonymously.

The whole thing is so premeditated. For some reason, I always assume affairs are accidents. Someone grows apart in their marriage and falls in love with someone else. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not condoning it when it happens that way; it just seems more realistic to me. But with Ashleymadison 3.86 million people sign-up. Login. Seek out others. And then meet them.  Unreal.

I guess the part that mystifies me the most is why these people don’t get a divorce. If you are SO unhappy in your relationship, just end it. And then you can date and sleep around as much as you want.  Ashleymadison’s tagline is “Life is short. Have an affair.” How about, “Life is short. Take control of your life and stop being such a coward.” The whole thing makes my skin crawl.



I have a very exciting announcement. This weekend, the man of my dreams proposed! Yes, that’s right, after 8+ years we are engaged.

Here is how it went down. Derek and I were in Alaska last week and one night we stayed at the Alyeska Resort. It’s a beautiful property and we were very excited to be staying there. Unfortunately, I had a cold, but I was doing my best to ignore it. As we were getting ready for dinner, I started noticing that Derek was acting a little strange. I couldn’t pin-point it at the time, but he was really anxious. All the sudden, it just popped into my head. Omg, he’s going to propose. My realization was then followed by 20 minutes of inner-conflict. Don’t be ridiculous. He’s not going to propose.  Don’t be that girl. You are going to get your hopes up and then be really disappointed when it doesn’t happen. And you’ll ruin a lovely evening. Just stop Kindra. And so, I successfully pushed the thought out of my head.

The Alyeska Resort is a ski resort and the restaurant (called Seven Glaciers) is located on top of the mountain. To reach the restaurant, you take a gondola from the hotel up the mountain. The setting is absolutely beautiful – you can see seven glaciers from the top! It’s very romantic. We had a wonderful dinner. Delicious. I ordered the tasting menu, which was really fun! Derek ordered the King Crab legs (which he barely touched – very uncharacteristic). In retrospect, I should have clued in at this point, but like I said, I had pushed it completely out of my mind.

After dinner was completed, he finally worked up the nerve. Time went very slowly for a few minutes. He set the ring on the table, teared-up and asked me to marry him. Short, sweet, sincere. Perfect.


Isn’t she lovely?

Our good friends Stacy and Andre were married two weeks ago at Hamilton Viewpoint in West Seattle. Click here to see a few photos.

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