Posts Tagged ‘facebook



I would like to clarify my last post “peeking on facebook”.  I was not implying that everyone on facebook is guilty of those specific offenses. I wouldn’t generalize everyone like that! I was merely listing my personal reservations with the tool. I realize that you make it what you want. Just like a blog.

Personally, I don’t write a blog to keep others up-to-date on my life. If/when it happens, that’s just a bonus. I write as an outlet because I’m too scattered to get very far in my novel. I write because I enjoy it. I READ blogs because I love reading an entry that I can relate to. An entry that someone has crafted perfectly. My absolute favorites are the raw and emotional entries. To evoke emotion in something as short as a blog entry is an accomplishment. Some people can’t even successfully do it in a full novel!


peeking on facebook.

I know I’m going to anger all you facebookers out there, but I have a confession. I’ve used Derek’s account to peek on facebook – twice. And I like it. I feel super sneaky. For years I have resisted myspace and facebook and for the past 3 months I’ve been toying with the idea of succumbing and joining. But I feel like I’m cheating on myself. I have several reasons for not wanting to join:

Reason #1: I hate (and this applies to my blog), when people think that online readership/viewing equals a real friendship. It doesn’t. In my opinion, you can’t have a meaningful relationship on facebook. Yes, it’s a great tool to keep updated but it doesn’t replace face time or even phone time. You can’t assume that because you read my blog that you know what’s going on with me. You know what I’ve chosen to share with the blogosphere. Same thing goes with facebook/myspace.

Reason #2: Social networking sites kind of feel like a popularity contest. The goal is to get as many friends as you can.

Reason #3: I keep telling myself I don’t have time to keep up a blog AND a facebook account. And I don’t. I don’t want to be online anymore than I already am.

Reason #4: I feel awkward situations coming on where I feel the need to accept invites from people I haven’t seen in 6 years. What is the appropriate way to handle this? Just accept everyone? I can see why some people have so many friends if this is the protocol.

All of these reasons are good, but they still don’t negate my two main attractions to facebook. 1) I like looking at all the photos. 2) I feel like I’m missing out – I wanna play too!

What’s a girl to do?

a blog for anyone, but mostly for me.